If you’re reading this, you’ve can sense things are changing. The shift is tangible and difficult to deny. Planet Earth’s energy is beginning to transform in order to nurture commUNITY and empowered minds, as the harmful ways of the past get weaker in the face of progressive power. We’ve been designed to distinguish the polarity as feminine vs masculine, the weaker against the stronger, for this purpose, let’s focus on Yin and Yang, aggressive and passive, and what is in actuality the equal balance of that power.
The world we live in has long been dominated by Yang...active, domineering energies, but with each passing day, Yin, (nurturing, loving energy) becomes more and more present, coming closer to equilibrium, within each individual, and humanity as a whole.
In ancient times, during their monthly cycles (the reason we sync up so “unexplainably”) women would travel away from the rest of the tribe as one to receive wisdom from the gods of the universe. This time was sacred. Women were celebrated for their connection and sisterhood, and held with the utmost esteem amongst one another and with men. It was common knowledge that women are highly connected, physically containing the gateway between the spirit and physical realms, and possess heightened awareness of the means to communicate through elevated consciousness to heal the planet and its people. This miraculous magnificence has been lost and downplayed in the last few centuries.
Women are made to feel that this time on their “moon” is disgusting, something inappropriate to discuss, that makes people uncomfortable. We’ve been so programmed to keep that subject behind closed doors when, as my mom so eloquently put it during my teenage years, horrified to admit cramps to my dad, “Honey, half the people on the planet get their periods, I assure you, he’s heard of cramps before.”
The Elders of Native American tradition said men should look at women in a sacred way. That men should never put women down or shame them in any way. When men have problems “women’s counsel should be sought, we should share with them openly. A woman has intuitive thought; she has access to another system of knowledge that few men develop. She can help us understand, we must treat her well.”
“The Old Ones say the Native American women will lead the healing among the tribes. Inside them are the powers of love and strength given by the Moon and the Earth. When everyone else gives up, it is the women who sing the songs of strength. She is the backbone of the people. So, to our women we say, sing your songs of strength; pray for your special powers; keep our people strong; be respectful, gentle, and modest.” -Village Wise Man, Lakota
What has happened? The tribute to our strength has fallen away like the prowess of those powerful people who once roamed and ruled “our” homeland. Our society has strayed so far from this reverence of the divine feminine, it was beginning to feel like all hope was lost.
However, something has begun to change in recent years. With the popularization of yoga, meditation and other spiritual practices in mainstream life, men and women alike are beginning to honor the strength it takes to be female today, to bask in wonder at the creators of life, and to revel in the aspects of their own soul essence which come from their softer side.
In my own experience; I have allowed myself to settle for treatment far beneath me. I was so unhappy with myself, feeling unworthy of love because my external scars wounded me internally, that I couldn’t find a man of the caliber I deserved to save my life. Instead I opted to chase physically desirable specimens to validate my own insecurities. Now, after years of working on myself and staying committed to just having a relationship with myself; all my former loves, seem to be coming out of the woodwork asking my forgiveness, having come to at least a basic understanding of the error in their ways, and wanting to make amends for their actions that stemmed from darkness.
Men are coming more in touch with their emotions and the capacity for their vulnerability to be not only received, but also honored...and what a beautiful transition it is! Dear friends of mine who used to battle in anger, can now break down in tears and get to the core of the pain they are projecting, to work through it and understand why they feel the need to get defensive and lash out. I cry with joy every once in a while, in awe of how far I’ve watched them come, and they’ve watched me.
In relating to one another this shift is HUGE! We are all guilty of blaming a current partner for the damage done by one from the past, but we are now receiving the framework to rewrite these stories of resentment and mistrust. Ultimately, the most important balance of relationship is the one you have with yourself, so as the recognition of positive Yin/feminine qualities rises, and operating from that space is more acceptable, we are all more capable of analyzing ourselves and our shadows to be better human beings and ultimately, better partners.
As men wake up to their feminine sides (everyone has one, and the same goes for women with masculine energy) they are more accepting of their emotions, more aware of their insecurities, and more capable of honoring their feminine counterparts as support systems. As women step up into allowing the showcase of their masculine energy we stand taller, live more freely, accept less inequality, and believe in the possibility of achieving our wildest dreams.
Society tells us to be happy we need to find the person who completes us, but what we really need is to find a way to become complete people. Only then will we be able to operate with healthy function in relation to another person. That is the greatest myth of today, that we can force our way through intimate interactions with another unique individual without forcing our way to the depths of our souls and back again.
Social media and the internet certainly do nothing to help with these exchanges. Of course there are women who honor their sexuality and wear it proudly, but there are others giving away endless angles of their mystery, for free, to complete strangers, in an effort to find some kind of validation they aren’t receiving in their real life. Everyone wants to be loved, but we have to love ourselves first. Everyone wants to feel desired, but have we been fooled into thinking that desire reaches no farther than the physical?
Imagine someone looking deep into your eyes and wanting only what lies behind them. Then try making that person yourself. Eye-gazing is one of the most powerful tools in energetic work. It can create bonds so deep they last a lifetime. So start with the center of your universe: YOU!
Look into a mirror, preferably into your left eye, and don’t break your gaze. Admire the depth of your pupils, the flecks of color, the sunburst, the galactic movement of that tiny orb inside your head. If you want to take it to the next level, start saying, “I Love You.” If we are creating our reality, there is nothing more important than to love the creator. If we can attain that, it is only love that will be expressed to our external world, and therefore reflected back to us.
This is a powerful first step on the path towards self-love if you have not already begun. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, writing 3 things you are grateful for everynight is a necessity in finding happiness. Nurture those little seeds of light in your life, remove the weeds of negative thought.
If you are unhappy on your own, how will you ever be able to make someone else happy? If you live in fear, how will you ever be able to truly trust? If your life is unfulfilled, how will you be able to create a fulfilling relationship? Sadly, you won’t. That is what we are not taught often enough.
We are fully capable of achieving all of those things, but they are meant to be found within first and foremost. Those dreams of happily every after, won’t come true until we are happy with who we are.