The society we live in now has unfortunately spiraled out of control to a point where it seems you can only be happy unless you have the next best “thing” – whether that “thing” is a handbag, a car, a pair of shoes, a piece of jewelry or a certain hairstyle – we have now become programmed to believe that it is OK for our happiness is dictated by a trend or a label.
The issue with this way of thinking is that happiness is only temporary, because as soon as you get the new latest and greatest “thing” – within a few months the next latest and greatest thing comes out which renders your “happiness” completely obsolete. The temporary significance of this object only detracts you from the real significant things in life, and this is where changing the way you look at “things” both physical and emotional is a pivotal step in reaching the happiness that is actually real and everlasting.
If you, yourself, look back at some of the best memories you have had in your life…what were they? Who were you with, and what caused the memory to be so significant? I guarantee you the answer to this question will be a particular time where there was laughter involved, a sense of love or a true feeling of bliss – not “oh, yeah the time I wore this bag and those expensive jeans”. The best label you can wear as a human being is not a brand-name, it is “happy”, “kind”, “loving” or “good”. I do not discount the need, or should I say, “want”, for nice things because part of human nature is adornment and self-expression, so appreciating things for what they are is not bad, nor does it make you less of a person by any means. Enjoy fashion and your own unique style, but do not let these material objects get in the way of what is really important. Also, try not to judge another person’s own unique style. Just because someone expresses themselves differently doesn’t mean they are any better or worse than you are.
One of the most important “things” in life is the impact you have on other people’s lives. Every action has a reaction, and the energy you emit as a human being goes into the universe, and has a ripple effect on humanity as a whole. Just like a stone being tossed into a pond, the ripples eventually make their way throughout the entire body of water. Energy in itself is infinite, and when you begin to look at yourself as not just “one” but part of a “whole”, you will understand that the frequency of energy you stay “tuned to” is what you can take with you when your life, as you know it, ends, or, more fittingly “begins anew”. Love is the best gift you can give, and receive. The more you give, the more you receive, and this is not just talking from a relationship (or friendship) point of view.
I challenge you to get a little uncomfortable, and show the same love you give to those you know, to those who are foreign to you – no matter how they look, or dress. Smile at a stranger, say “hello”, help someone carry their groceries, and give compliments whenever possible. If you are met with adversity, don’t disregard that person as being rude or unapproachable, just keep on smiling and showing love – I guarantee you, that eventually the “rude” person, really was just a person filled with fear…fear of trusting that there actually are good people, with good intentions in the world, along with a terrible, crippling fear of themselves. Letting go of pretension, ego, and status will free you of the chains that society has bound to us. All of those “things” are an illusion. Physical beauty, material possession, money in the bank…none of these things are “real”, they are simply dictated to us as necessity, but if you have a beautiful, kind, loving soul, then that is worth more than anything monetary. That is something, which has no price tag, but is absolutely priceless.